Long before the modern wedding ceremony was embraced by western couples there were girls. Tradition has been traced all the way back to ancient Rome where flower girls carry slices of wheat and fecundy herbs before the bride. As it is today their role in the ceremony was largely symbolic.
The blooms were symbols of youth and virgin and their wheat and herbs were symbols of fertility. The young attendant also symbolized the transition of the young bride from childhood to woman and motherhood. But the girl did not actually stroke rose petals before the bride until much later.
When Queen Victoria married Prince Albert in 1840 she wrote about many of the old rules for the wedding label and created the traditions followed to this day. The queen is credited with starting a new fashion trend when she felt her wedding day. Before that time royal men rarely had white dresses. Over time the color began to symbolize virginity chastity and romantic love because Victoria was one of the few royals who had married for love and love alone.
Whether her young attendant actually scattered rose petals before she is not part of the historical record. What we know however is that Victoria inspired Europeans to appreciate the romantic aspects of marriage. It was during the Victorian era that men began to send womens flowers. The flower soon became a strong symbol of romantic love.
The modern flower
Flower girls are not only the smallest and cutest members of the bride party but they are also the only other women who may wear white. They are usually between 4 and 8 years old and are related to the bride or groom. A fairly modern revision is the number of girls chosen. A formal wedding can have as many as four girls all dressed in white.
While its not exactly rocked most brides prefer their little attendant to wear dresses that reflect their own. If so the parents of the flower trees have very little wiggle rooms. They simply need to visit the same wedding dress the bride uses and order a miniature in her dress. But it is rarely the case. Because the parents often pay for the dress the bride insists on being rarely wearing a special dress.
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Although the dress is not a miniature copy of the wedding dress it should not come out of the left hand field. The girls parents should remember that she is a member of the bride party and as such she will appear in dozens of formal photographs. Therefore her dress should not collide with the other members of the bride party.
Again there are no difficult and fast rules but at a formal ceremony the flower girl should be white. But in a smaller formal store like a beach or backyard morning the flower often has the same color and style as the bridesmaid.
The parents of the flower should pay close attention to the dress material. Usually it will be the first formal dress that a little girl will wear and you never know how to react. Will the fabric to scratch scratch or otherwise irritate the skin? No one expects the girl to act as an adult but if she is uncomfortable it will show during the ceremony and in the pictures.
It is also important to consider the season. Rich heavy fabrics like velor or velvet are good for winter weddings. They are comfortable and they will keep the flower girl warm. For outdoor weddings during the spring or summer months lighter fabrics like crepe and dupioni will keep her from overheating.
Footwear is often the key to comfort which means no high heels or styles she has never worn before. Most flower girls wear simple ballet style slippers that are easy to go and dance in.
When you choose the length of her coat the age of the flower girl is of course a factor. A four year old child should never wear a dress in the floor length although thats what the bride should wear. She can travel over it and hurt herself. A shorter dress is always best for young flower girls. Older athletes should probably also avoid full length suits. But te length dresses often work well. These are dresses that fall to the bottom of the calf or ankle.
Small girls are full of energy and they spend the entire wedding day walking dancing and dancing. Therefore it is best to choose tissues that are not wrinkles prone like velvet or silk.